Fake Friends

Bible verses about fake friends

What a blessing it is from God to have good friends, but from elementary school to college we’ve all had fake friends. I would like to start off by saying even our best friends can make mistakes. Remember, no one is perfect. The difference between a good friend who happened to do something you didn’t like and a fake friend is that a good friend does not keep on doing bad to you.

You can talk to that person and tell them anything and they will hear your words because they love you. A fake friend doesn’t care how you feel and continues to put you down even after you talked to them. They’re usually haters. From my personal experience many fake people don’t understand their fake. Their personality is just being unauthentic.

They are selfish and they will always put you down, but they don’t think that they are being fake. When these friends stop talking to you they start talking about you. When making new friends don’t choose people who will only bring you down and draw you away from Christ. Trying to fit in is never worth it. Before we get to the Scriptures. Let’s find out out how to identify them.

Quotes

“Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour True friends are like stars, you don’t always see them but they are always there.”

“True friends are always there for you. Fake friends only appear when they need something from you.”

“Time alone can prove the worth of friendship. As time goes by we lose the the false ones and keep the best. True friends stay when all the rest are gone. An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.”

“True friends will always find a way to help you. Fake friends will always find an excuse.”

 

How to spot a fake friend?

• They are two faced. They smile and laugh with you, but then slander you behind your back.
• They want to know your information and secrets so they can gossip to others. 
• They always gossip about their other friends. 

• When you’re alone with each other it’s never a problem, but when others are around they constantly try to make you look bad. 
• They always belittle you, your talents, and your accomplishments. 
• They always make fun of you. 
• Everything is a competition to them. They always try to one up you.
• They purposely give you bad advice so you don’t succeed or surpass them in something. 
• When they are around others they act like they don’t know you. 
• When you make a mistake they always gloat. 
• They use you for what you have and know. They always try to take advantage of you. 
• They are never there when you need them. In your time of need and when you’re going through bad things they run. 
• They never build you up and make you a better person, but are always bringing you down. 
• They close their mouths at the wrong times. They let you go down the wrong path and allow you to make mistakes. 
• They are critical. They always see the bad they never see the good. 
• They are manipulative.

 

 You will know them by their fruits.

1. Matthew 7:16 You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act. Can you pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?

2. Proverbs 20:11 Even small children are known by their actions, so is their conduct really pure and upright?

 

Their words do not cooperate with their hearts. They love to flatter. They give fake smiles and many times they compliment you and insult you at the same time.

3. Psalm 55:21 His words are as smooth as butter, but in his heart is war. His words are as soothing as lotion, but underneath are daggers!

4. Matthew 22:15-17 Then the Pharisees met together to plot how to trap Jesus into saying something for which he could be arrested. They sent some of their disciples, along with the supporters of Herod, to meet with him. “Teacher,” they said, “we know how honest you are. You teach the way of God truthfully. You are impartial and don’t play favorites. Now tell us what you think about this: Is it right to pay taxes to Caesar or not?” But Jesus knew their evil motives. “You hypocrites!” he said. “Why are you trying to trap me?

5. Proverbs 26:23-25 Smooth words may hide a wicked heart, just as a pretty glaze covers a clay pot. People may cover their hatred with pleasant words, but they’re deceiving you. They pretend to be kind, but don’t believe them. Their hearts are full of many evils.

6. Psalm 28:3 Do not drag me away with the wicked–with those who do evil–those who speak friendly words to their neighbors while planning evil in their hearts.

 

They are backstabbers.

7. Psalm 41:9 Even my close friend, someone I trusted, one who shared my bread, has turned against me.

8. Luke 22:47-48 While he was still speaking a crowd came up, and the man who was called Judas, one of the Twelve, was leading them. He approached Jesus to kiss him, But Jesus said, “Judas, would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?”

 

They want to know everything, not because they care, but so they can gossip.

9. Psalm 41:5-6 But my enemies say nothing but evil about me. “How soon will he die and be forgotten?” they ask. They visit me as if they were my friends, but all the while they gather gossip, and when they leave, they spread it everywhere.

10. Proverbs 11:13 A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.

11. Proverbs 16:28 A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.

 

They are always talking bad about others. Imagine how they talk about you when you’re not around.

12. Proverbs 20:19 A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.

13. Jeremiah 9:4 Beware of your friends; do not trust anyone in your clan. For every one of them is a deceiver, and every friend a slanderer.

14. Leviticus 19:16 Do not spread slanderous gossip among your people. Do not stand idly by when your neighbor’s life is threatened. I am the LORD.

 

They are bad influences. They want to see you go down because they are going down.

15. Proverbs 4:13-21 Always remember what you have been taught, and don’t let go of it. Keep all that you have learned; it is the most important thing in life. Don’t follow the ways of the wicked; don’t do what evil people do. Avoid their ways, and don’t follow them. Stay away from them and keep on going, because they cannot sleep until they do evil. They cannot rest until they harm someone. They feast on wickedness and cruelty as if they were eating bread and drinking wine. The way of the good person is like the light of dawn, growing brighter and brighter until full daylight. But the wicked walk around in the dark; they can’t even see what makes them stumble. My child, pay attention to my words; listen closely to what I say. Don’t ever forget my words; keep them always in mind.

16. 1 Corinthians 15:33-34 Do not be fooled. “Bad companions ruin good character.” Come back to your right senses and stop your sinful ways. I declare to your shame that some of you do not know God.

17. Proverbs 12:26 The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.

18. Matthew 5:29-30 So if your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose a part of your body than to have all of it thrown into hell. And if your right hand leads you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose a part of your body than to have all of it go into hell.

 

Enemies encourage bad decisions, while good friends tell you the truth even if it hurts. 

19. Proverbs 27:5-6 An open rebuke is better than hidden love! Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.

 

They use and take advantage of you. You’re only friends when you’re helping them.

20. Proverbs 27:6 Do not take advantage of each other, but fear your God. I am the LORD your God.

 

They are stingy.

21. Proverbs 23:6-7 Don’t eat with people who are stingy; don’t desire their delicacies.  for he is the kind of person who is always thinking about the cost. “Eat and drink,” he says to you, but his heart is not with you.

 

When you have something to offer them they stay, but as soon as you don’t they leave.

22. Proverbs 19:6-7 Many curry favor with a ruler, and everyone is the friend of one who gives gifts. The poor are shunned by all their relatives— how much more do their friends avoid them! Though the poor pursue them with pleading, they are nowhere to be found.

 

When you’re in trouble they are nowhere to be found.

23. Psalm 38:10-11 My heart pounds, my strength fails me; even the light has gone from my eyes.  My friends and companions avoid me because of my wounds; my neighbors stay far away.

24. Psalm 31:11 I am scorned by all my enemies and despised by my neighbors–even my friends are afraid to come near me. When they see me on the street, they run the other way.

 

Fake friends are the ones who turn into foes.

25. Psalm 55:12-14 If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were rising against me, I could hide. But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship at the house of God, as we walked about among the worshipers.

Reminder

Never try to get revenge on anyone. Always continue to love your enemies.